WashPost: Tiger Woods has an emotional void in his life. This void must be huge. For him to be where he is today, this deep emptiness must have consumed him, must be something he has been living with for a long time. Having stared into this void, having known this hollowness, I can neither excoriate the guy nor exonerate him.
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Most lives today are lived in the fast lane, and most want INSTANT riches, fame and the LOVE we all need...I personally after 56 years with the same woman, am just finding out NOW, that real love is far beyond even a successful "S" LOVE life, with so may unspoken tangables that come from just the milk of everyday kindness....between the two of US.....
An empty heart and an addiction to sex is very sad. The search for the illusive emotional support of another person who understands is a search in the darkness of unknown and unknowing companionship. This is a very lonely life and no addiction can replace the normal emotions of a human spirit. I know what Tiger has felt and hitting bottom is the only way to begin a climb out of this slippery walled well. I wish him all the best and the courage to find the emotional love he deserves.
when we have sites like sugar daddies we know as a society we hit rock bottom but amazingly we continue on that rock bottom.
An incredibly focused childhood, which allowed little or no room for anything but golf, left a huge void in Tiger's life. It would appear that when his father died, Tiger was free of certain constraints, restraints, that kept him from many opportunities to live a normal life. It seems that he is now attempting to "catch up" on what was missed in his life. Unfortunately, it's really bad timing.
mini, "I know she only married Tiger for his money and he only married her for sex." You can't know anything about these people's lives unless you were living in their home with them day-to-day. Most likely, you were not. But you choose to judge them anyway. Your statement is not only unkind but unjustified.
Western society and society at large globally has its head in the sand when it comes to human sexual wants, desires, and tendencies. Tiger is no phenom. He's representative of everyone and of no one. Female teachers are having sex with underage students, preachers step out with mistresses, husbands lie to wives, wives lie to husband, and for what? A little nookie?
That being said, sex should never be something that's forced on anyone, let alone on an innocent child by an adult in a position of trust. There are just some rules that need to be standing orders for all universally.
Now back to the topic...
If variety is the spice of life then sex must be the whole damned spice rack. No foolin'.
Its the one thing that all humans have in common in terms of the pleasure derived from it. Its the one thing that we all do, and I'm sorry but you can't legislate, or morally shame away a natural desire. Case in point, look at what happens when a society does. This is what happens, again, and again, and again.
Why?
Because Tiger Woods, he's a bad man? Hell, if that's the case then we're all bad men, and women, going back to Adam and Eve (assuming you buy into all that by the way).
A lesson keeps repeating until the lesson is learned and it's meaning applied. Sex is not a disease, deceiving to cover up ones desire for sex with others deemed "persons non-grata", aka, mistresses, strange on the road hookups, or just plain down and dirty butt naked romps at a frat party, are what people do to protect themselves from a society that attempts to morally judge them on a subject that the society itself has yet to even properly explore from either an academic or a moral standpoint in a reasonable and mature fashion.
Most modern day values regarding human sexuality are derived from outmoded and absurd religious doctrines. Am I the only person alive who sees that? In a sexually aware society this story wouldn't be news, there would be and is nothing "new" about it. But once again, the sun worshiping Neanderthals are hard at work, trying to convince us all that sex between two consenting adults is "baaaaad". He had sex with multiple partners! So what! We should all be so lucky.
If his wife had any sense, and if he'd had any sense, and if society had any sense then a mature conversation would've been able to occur between these two peoples that would've laid out the guidelines, the rules, the "okays" and the "no ways" concerning sex and how it would play out in their relationship. But that didn't happen. They followed "societies" made up rules regarding sex and look where it got them. Now there's public humiliation, ridicule, not to mention a total invasion of he and his wife's personal privacy by a voyeuristic public that just can't get enough of wanting to have someone, as Tony Montana put it, to point the finger at and say "see, that's the bad guy."
The best thing that Tiger Woods did was to leave the country. In effect saying to the public's shameful fascination with his private sex life, "well say goodnight to the bad guy."
In the end game we're all walking the same tightrope, twined together by the same sick, twisted old farts that live to impose their views and opinions upon us all so that they can sleep well at night. Deluding themselves into thinking that in the eyes of their god that their person crusade to make the world a "better place" is a necessary, justified, and righteous one. That's one of a thousand reasons I stopped buying into their crap a long time ago, and so did many of you.
We're all tired of this broken system dictating who we are even in our own bedrooms. So stand up now, be counted, and let's all say with one voice to every pope, swam-my, imam, reverend, nun, and any other con-job moral and ethical crap peddler daring to impose upon the masses their will and what they consider wrong - to go to hell. That and one more thing that we can all collectively agree on...
ENOUGH ALREADY!!!
Epilogue:
You want to sit in your room rocking back and forth saying hale mary's because you accidentally caught a glimpse of the check out girls tits - that's your business. But don't tell me that I'm wrong for slipping her my number and propositioning her for an exclusive showing. That's my right and prerogative, and nothing gives you or anyone else who breaths the same air as me the right to tell me that I'm wrong for doing so, or that it somehow makes me "dirty", "sinful", or "unclean".
So go order a shot, smoke a joint, get a hummer and get laid. Only save your moral righteousness speech for someone who gives a damn.
I put my soapbox away now and yield the balance of my time for the rest of my life - to me...
UnC, "...daring to impose upon the masses their will and what they consider wrong. Only save your moral righteousness speech for someone who gives a d***." You have said much in your soliloquy with which I agree. I would add only that the quotation from your text above applies also to those self-righteous individuals who plead that abortion is "murder". Their opinion is just that. Only an opinion. Not fact. Based on nothing but their desire that society bow to their demands.
If only Tiger would have saved a little "moral righteousness" for himself, then there'd a two less brokenhearted kids. Of course, some would say that they deserve the fragmentation of their home, since their expectations were based on outmoded and absurd religious doctrines.
Problem is, do we know that his kids had a religious orientation? Or maybe they're like all kids: wanting what ought to be normal based on the ideas of trust and integrity.
Camino1 - you're a self righteous @!$%# of the type mentioned by my commentary. While I didn't and wasn't attempting to quantify the lives of the children of the man you seem to believe that its okay to hoist them into the spotlight for your own self gratification.
You don't know what trust and integrity are because you've never had any, yet you feel it your duty to remind others of what your idea of those traits are and that they should uphold them.
Get a life, and @!$%# you, you phony ass hypocrite, and stop pontificating and prancing around like you know what's good for the rest of us.
Tiger Woods isn't a saint @!$%#. And guess what? Neither are you.
Wow. Somebody sounds defensive.
If you want to get an idea of what Elin Nordegren's friends might be thinking of Tiger's antics, check here http://nbcsports.msnbc.com/id/34247267/ns/sports-golf/
Of course, they don't count because they must subscribe to outdated religious regulations. Or perhaps not.
^•^
Also sounds like somebody has the same kind of "friends" that Tiger has.
Actually I think the writer of this column needs to get a life! You are no better than anyone else out there writing about Tiger and making a name for your self! What Tiger has done is wrong but none of your business or anyone elses! Do you write about things you have done wrong? The only difference in you and Tiger is that Tiger is well known and you aren't. This world would be a better place if people like yourself would focus on fixing your problems and not anyone else!
Finally, someone writes something that starts us in the right direction. I thought the moment I heard the words come from Charles Barkley that he was "concerned that Tiger was blocking out his rich friends."
I thought--you guys are who enabled Tiger in the first place. I've been married only 3 decades, and have been faithful--tempted? Sure, but one of the reasons I have survived is because the guys around me are not pressing me to cheat. They don't preach to me, but their example inspires me to be loyal. The right friends make a HUGE difference.
Camino1, you are so right. His so called friends did such a dis-service to him. When this story first broke I thought to myself, "where were his real friends"? Well according to the story they were right there adding fuel to the fire all along the way. Tiger needs to re-evaluate the people he hangs with. I like you have had the luxury of having good friends that have good morals and goals in life. I will say it again, it sickens me that Tiger has hurt his family and humiliated Elin so much. In my opinion, good friends would have tried to stir Tiger in the other direction.
Camino1, ever jerk off in the bathroom to the idea of having sex with another women? Sure you have you lying ass phony.
Your, "I've been married only 3 decades, and have been faithful--tempted?" line sounds about as convincing as Bill Clinton's "but I didn't inhale" assertion.
Go somewhere and take a real good look into a mirror at yourself pal. You've probably been lying to others and to yourself for so long now that you actually believe the things that your saying.
You're a sad example of what a waste a human life can become when its filled with self delusion and self loathing.
I wonder if that wife of yours could corroborate your story mister? Probably not, which is why you proudly profess you beliefs and your marital fidelity online under an assumed name.
You really do fit the classic case study, text book example of someone fitting the profile of a sociopath. Did you know that?
Obviously not, or maybe you just didn't take the time to notice. Spending all that time convincing others that you're the second coming obviously takes up a lot of your time.
But its okay. What are a few lies between online friends? We'll just keep it our little secret okay? Buddy to buddy.
Just try not to think that anyone actually takes you seriously on here.
Wow. Someone got access to his mother's computer.
The old maxim goes, "He who angers you, owns you."
Oooh! Camino1 has girlfriends. Careful buddy. You don't wanna' carry on any online emotional affairs. The ladies husbands here might not take too kindly to that. I'm also pretty sure that your long suffering, devoted wife who you've been so faithful to wouldn't like the idea either, seeing as you respect her and other women so much.
Dianna-1503728, stop sounding like a undergrad groupie hanging on every idiotic word out of "professor" Camino1's mouth. At first its cute, but then it just starts to look downright pathetic and creepy, almost borderline stalker.
After all, how well do you really know the guy?
Other than that, if you want to avoid my wrath start by keeping your opinions pleasant and I'll do likewise. Otherwise, shut up and take it like a man, err woman.
And its not mommy's computer. Its dads. Hers is locked in the other room where I can't get to it.
Your very first post was unpleasant. Too late.
But it doesn't have to be terminal, guy. 2010 holds hopeful possibilities for you.
Great article....As a man, I find it VERY hard to believe the stories of lifelong fidelity. I think perhaps we have differing opinions of what fidelity is, thats the only way we are not ALL the same. I too, made a HUGE mistake. It wasn't fourteen times, but it was an indiscretion just the same. I can assure you that Tiger is torturing himself as badly as anyone. Perfectionists are like that. He is humiliated, embarassed and whipping himself worse than anyone else is. I think at a time like this, we (MEN) need to stop hiding and hoping our wives dont ask us questions, and feel some compassion. As the article said, this is in all likelihood, the worst time in his life....He knows it, we know it, his mother knows it......lets climb down out of our class towers(mixed metaphor intended) and let him have some time to grow and become a better person.
I have no reason to lie. My wife's not looking over my shoulder, so what would be the point of anonymously writing that I have not cheated on her? To specify, I have not had sex (of any type, if you happen to think of Clinton) with anyone but my wife. I should add that I am a physically fit professional, a published author, and an adjunct professor, which could indicate there have been opportunities to be unfaithful.
I might add that my dad, married now over 50 years, instilled in me early a deep respect for women in the way he treated mom. His life and honoring of the opposite sex in the way he treated his mom, aunts, daughters and women in general has also made pornography reprehensible to me. I presume (I don't know that but am unwilling to experiment) that anyone can become a porn addict, and therefore have done all I can to avoid it.
Just as the article says, Tiger is not alone. I will add that I am not alone, either, and there are men who surround themselves with guys who dreamed of living their whole lives with integrity before their children and their community, and should they become famous, the world.
Amen, brother. Who we choose to surround ourselves with says so much about who we are, but even more about who we will become. Run with the wolves and before long, you'll end up barking like, wolf, running like a wolf, and dying like a wolf.
Oh yeah, taking the private yacht to the Bahamas is certainly MY idea of "torturing himself" or "whipping himself worse than anyone else". I'm sick of the attitude of some that we are supposed to accept the notion that what Tiger did is "typical", "normal", or (the worst one in my opinion) "expected" just because he is rich, good looking, fit and "has women throwing themselves at him". He has spent a career setting himself to a standard that is above these "indiscretions", and to now use that same standards to excuse his behavior is despicable.
Every person on this planet has "temptations"...it those of us who rise above them and remain faithful to our partner, regardless of status, are the people who SHOULD be held up as "role models"...
I'll bet 1/3 to 1/2 of the pga cheats or has cheated on their wives. He IS normal compared the rest of the population as well.
Look at marriage stats. Look at shows like "to catch a predator". We all have secrets. Everyone... including the last person you suspect will be the person who likes to break into neighbors homes and sniff panties.
I am a Loss Prevention manager at a big box retailer. Trust me... EVERYBODY(class,economic status,looks,job,how they're dressed) steals. Well, everybody commits adultery. At least half of the population. That's what everyone's and my stats say. And its the truth. Its not OK, but it is objective reality.
Wesley, your statistics may be wrong; however you, (in my opinion) are missing the point. Tiger did not have an affair or two of which he could potentially successful at hiding from the public, his wife and family. He went with a bunch, opportunistic women, (15+). So many knew about his other life and did nothing to discourage that other life. He had to have known he would get caught and the exact thing happened because he was not selective, discret etc. I have lost so much respect for him not because he cheated, (which I am totally against), but he 100% sacrificed his family and made his wife feel like and look like a fool. That will forever change his family relations for ever. I hope he thought it was worth it.
Oh mini, you must have me confused with someone else. Do you know how to read? I never spoke of a role model at all and if the subject comes up I certainly would never pick a celebrity period. You are way off base in your comment - it is crazy talk.
Thank you for an excellent perspective on this matter. I, too, hope that Tiger can face his behavior and the underlying issues honestly. I also hope he can muster the strength to do the difficult emotion-work necessary to become a better person rather than surrounding himself with those who only say what HE wants to hear, enabling his behavior.
As the number of Mr. Woods' infidelities increased daily, it was apparent to me that despite having immense talent, wealth, fame and a photogenic wife and family, he had a deep emotional void inside. The evidence to date points to his trying to fill it by seeking out women for sex and perhaps drugs on a dangerously grand scale. I pray that he now realizes that he has some serious psychological and physical addiction problems, and I sincerely hope he is getting professional help in dealing with them.
What makes Mr. Woods' rapid fall from grace so tragic and reprehensible is that he hid his private predilections behind a carefully manufactured image that was sold to corporate advertisers and to the public as the real deal. That his income will suffer from the discovery of that lie can be measured in dollars; but the damage done to his reputation, family and the game of golf is incalculable and perhaps irreparable.
Earl Woods taught his son to be a great golfer; Tiger studied economics while at Stanford; but apparently no one showed him how to be a truly great man. It's not too late for him to learn that most important of life lessons. Let's hope that he can, and will - and that he'll take all the time he needs to do so.
Emotional void? Perhaps, but I doubt it. Why can't it be as simple as this: HE LOVES to have SEX with different women.
He loves feeling wanted. He loves the attention and affection of women. It's exciting. It gives him that "living on the edge" feeling that propels him to want more.
He was stupid. Stupid for thinking that he could keep 1, 2, or 14 women quiet about their ongoing sex-capades. He KNEW the risks, and he knew what would happen if the media caught wind of one of these affairs. But now that it's all come out, and he's exposed, suddenly he's sorry, remorseful, and can see the errors of his ways?? SPARE ME. That's what all of them say ONCE THEIR CAUGHT. NO ONE who cheats stops cheating because they suddenly feel guilty, or they realize it's wrong. It's only after they're caught do we get to hear about their undying love , and then the begging for another chance starts. It's ridiculous. What happens to basic respect for another person when you get married? Have a conversation about wanting to date other people, instead of being a coward who waits to be caught in the act. It hurts to hear that the person you love wants to date other people. It hurts a lot. BUT it hurts on much deeper levels when you're betrayed by the closest, most important person in your life. It destroys something that can't be fixed. Not like it used to be anyway.
The minute you're late, forget to call, etc the first thing they're going to think is that your up to your cheating ways again. And who can blame them? Your self driven ego takes over. You expect your friends to cover for your behavior, and lie for you as well.
Betrayal is a stepping stone. You'll get to use it in the next relationship to show that you can be trusted. Lots of people say they "KNOW" this. BUT KNOWING it doesn't mean ANYTHING until you apply what you know.
EXACTLY! Tiger knows the difference between right and wrong. Everyone wants their actions to be an "addiction" after they get caught. Tiger knew from the first time that he was cheating on his wife and that it was wrong. And the more he got away with it, the more he wanted to do it. Instead of being real men and being truly honest with themselves and everyone else by coming out and saying they cheat on their spouse because they don't respect women or themselves and enjoy the rush of getting away with cheating on their wives, they come out with this lame excuse of an addiction.
Anyone who has had any type of "addiction" and has gotten help for it, and has truly been honest with themselves, knows that the only part of the whole problem that is the "addiction" is deciding to say "NO". And, yes, I'm speaking from experience. You know it's wrong, but you like how it feels, and you keep doing it because it's so easy to get away with it. And getting away with it is part of the rush. Next thing you know you're so caught up in it that it seems impossible to stop. But you can - obviously - because when you get caught.....you stop. These guys make the choice to stop. There is a YES and a NO. They choose the YES. They know the shouldn't but they think the can get away with it because they already have an ego problem. Then they get caught and now choose NO.
And you guys think you're the only ones who get approached like this by women. Well, guess what, you're not. I'm not a super model by any means but I'm an attractive woman. I meet a lot of people for my job. I get hit on constantly. I say NO because it's the right thing. I know the difference between right and wrong. You men act all big and bad while you're screwing everything that comes your way, think it makes you more of a man to be married and still get it from all around. Then when you get caught you become this withering little boy. You use this "poor little weak man" excuse and it's a load of crap. It's time you MAN UP and just admit you do it because you think you can get away with it.
No one wants to take responsibility when they fuc* up like this anymore. It's time to grow up and say "yeah, I knew it was wrong but decided to do it anyway cause it's not like I'm going to go to prison for it."
PhxAZMom - You are being pseudo-holy and judgemental. Believe it or not we are all surrounded by 'candy' in the store of life. Strong willpower and abstinence isn't the answer. The solution to emptiness is to try everything to find fullness. One mistress or 14 mistresses aren't the problem. Hiding the affairs could never be hidden forever. The infidelity is a cry for help.
You are a callous holier-than-thou person who can't understand the fragile human side of all of us.
Tiger KNEW what he was doing, he CHOSE to keep doing it and the CONSEQUENCES for finally getting CAUGHT (oh what a shame? HA!) are what he is going through now. I don't feel one bit sorry for him! I was the betrayed wife in a marriage. I tried trusting him after his "Oh I am so sorry I will never do it again"(more than once or twice)...and the plain and simple truth is you CANNOT trust them again even if they were faithful the rest of their life. One gentleman addressed the pornography issue - that addiction is possibly worse than the actual act of infidelity because it's a daily, sometimes hourly "unfaithfulness" to your spouse (yes folks, it's as bad as physically cheating). Men (and women alike)....if you don't want to be with one person....don't make committments. If you make a committment...BE COMMITTED!!! It's not rocket science it's being an honorable, loving human.
Thanks for the best article yet on the Tiger Wood's fiasco. It probably won't make a difference to Mr. Woods or most of the sport meatheads out there, but it did for me. Porn is just as dangerous and addictive as actual sexual infidelity to an individual and is also used by many (men especially) to distract them from the void they have in themselves. We use it to create a form of physical pleasure that a part of us hopes will ease the sense of isolation we feel from others--especially women--whether it is our wife, our girlfriend if single, or the one we don't have if single and alone. Both the use of pornography and physical infidelity only serve to isolate us further--as Mr. Woods is probably experiencing in great doses. I'm sure all the masturbating meatheads out there are rolling their eyes at this and saying it's not the same thing, while at the same time feeling the faint, deeply-submerged nudging of their own little "black hole" slowly growing inside of their souls. Think about what the author said about Joe Dimaggio everytime you queue up a porn video on the internet--"Those are someone's daughters being used and abused in those scenes." Thank you to the author, whose timely posting of this article saved me from using porn on the internet tonight to ease the loneliness I feel while lying awake in bed at 4am on Christmas night missing my wife deeply.
What a relief to finally read a story that addresses Tiger as a human being who is conflicted with a possible addiction whose purpose is to fill a void in himself. Although the only criticism I would have about this article is not even briefly mentioning Tiger's wife and her very difficult time in coping with her ordeal which resulted from Tiger's infidelity, this article is truly a breath of fresh air. You have not only shed light on the depth of Tiger's problem, but you have also made me do some serious introspection on my own issues in that same area. Thank you! God bless and Merry Christmas!
Superb story. My father has been married to my mother 65 years next Tuesday. He made a choice to be faithful. Not that temptation was never there, but he CHOSE not to break his wedding vows. Wonderful story. Thank you.
Finally, some cogency in the media 'observations and analysis' about Tiger.
A one-night-stand, an affair...that's infidelity.
Having in excess of a dozen mistresses, some/many/all on the payroll, to the degree of tens of thousands of dollars a month, over a long period of time, during pregnancies, after children have been born, seemingly expressing 'You're my soul mate!' sentiments to the majority of these extra-marital partners?
That's not 'infidelity'. That's a pronounced psychological affliction on a par with being an addict, an alcoholic, or a chronic gambler. In fact, you'll find that the degree of 'affliction' is not that far from the kind that has someone snapping and taking lives. (Yes, I am being serious.)
Tiger's 'situation' exited the realm of public discourse once the numbers rose above a certain point. We're now into the purview of the professional, the counselor, the therapist, the psychologist, the psychiatrist. Most people simply are not equipped to have any more a qualified opinion of his circumstances than they are to opine about brain surgery.
Being the wife of a sex addict who is in recovery I find this article and some of the comments truly refreshing and insightful. It gives hope to the victims. I truly hope that Tiger gets the help he needs and can re-build what he has lost - but it's a long, hard road for all involved.
Just another ridiculous excuse for a self-indulgent egotist. He's self-centered and self-serving. He did it because he could do it with the help of his similar-minded friends. I don't want to hear that he's sick or any other crap. He's just self-serving at the expense of a multitude of others.
"I don't want to hear that he's sick or any other crap."
Please...don't have children.
WAH....I can't keep it in my pants. It's as simple as that. LOL at the "disease" aspect.
Unfortunately, sometimes I think that men are a lower form of life. I'm not done researching this yet.
Happens to women too, not just men.
Perhaps...but this is quite the extreme. Can you think of any examples?
He's ruined the lives of his kids. They will never be the same again and for this he is selfish and self absorbed - not sick.
Example - the former spouse I kicked out of my house had many, many affairs - "Oh, I'll never do it again - That wasn't me - they're calling the wrong number - I've got a sick friend I need to take care of - It only happened once." Yes, women can have the same addiction. Was it because I couldn't satisfy her? Not according to my present spouse - she thinks the former was an idiot "".
Tig has more issues than sex. He has serious emotional concerns that need to be administered to by a professional - not his hard charging, drug enduced, gambling challenged, sexually addicted "buddies".
Sickness? I guess that depends on the interpretation. Most men and women suffer from the same temptations, and many of them take advantage if the time seems right.
Perhaps we should stop kidding ourselves: marriage isn't what it's idealized to be. The idea that being with one woman or one man for a lifetime is just undoable for most.
For those who think marriage works, more power to you. But there must be another way that would allow all of those tempted to take advantage without the onous of "infidelity."
After all, attraction (sex) is what moves this world.
Ron, It sounds as if you never met the right women. Being with someone that is your best friend and lover does happen. I experienced this after sowing my oats and he his oats. I was 32.......
All the jokes about tiger are amusing, but none of them can take away from the fact that he's a great golfer. He'll still be the best golfer when he makes his return.
I look forward to his return. I don't see why all these sponsor are turning their backs on him. Other sports stars and entertains have done things fifty times worse than tiger and we continued to support their behavior, and how make other men out there who have talked bad about tiger have cheated. They just haven't gotten caught yet. So watch what you say. Tiger will be back and I can't wait for his return. This is all a family matter, not a criminal matter although the media tried to make it seem like a criminal matter to discredit tiger, but it won't work.....
There's a great new Bob Dylan song that sums it all up in so few words, as only Bob can do, called "All Men Are Pigs".
Check it out, he really has his pulse on what's going on with guys in the spotlight - wonder if he's talkin from experience?
Wouldn't that make all women sows?
I can't judge Tiger Woods or any of the other successful athletes who have had a problem with infidelity. I haven't walked a mile in their shoes.
I would be willing to walk a mile or perhaps two in Tiger's cleats especially if Elin was willing also.
Who is this jerk? When I got married (now almost 32 years) I looked into the eyes of my wife and spoke the words "forsaking all others". I made a promise, and if I can't keep a promise, then shame on me, nobody and nothing else. It's all about personal honor, not some fanciful illness to explain lack of honor on the cheater's part. Can't keep a promise? Then you are a sorry excuse for a human being. It has been the easiest vow to keep. You simply say 'no'.
So you've been a perfect saint since then? Never breaking any of the commandments in all that time?
Get off your @!$%#ing high horse!
You've never broken any promises in 30 years? lol.
You are the bull@!$%# that is wrong with America.
Wesley, you use your imperfectness (we all are) as the means to justify whatever the f*#* you want to do, regardless of ethics and scruples.
My parents are married nearly 50 years, and they get at each other's necks at times, but they haven't broken their vows...they're not perfect, either, but they know what is expected of them in their lifestyles.
Ethical, honest people aren't what's wrong with America, it's the "what's the big deal, I can do whatever I want (if it doesn hurt anyone I KNOW directly)...
Clearly an unnecessary apologist tone to this article. Woods was not some inner city bonehead who fortuitously did an end around the street gang culture to play basketball or football. He clearly had opportunities at learning in college and parents who cared. He blindly chose a very poor circle of friends knowing where they might lead him. It was his fault no excuses please.
This article gets the bucketfull of shxt award. It's incoherent in its logic or thought process and by the time you get to the end, it's as disgusting as Tiger's sex addiction. We are not dumb. We all understand skants throw themselves at men like Tiger. Hell, Michelle Obama talked about women on the campaign trail grabbing her husband's ass. While Woods was stupid, addicted and probably was maddeningly loving wild sex he couldn't get at home, these women were more than willing to draw trow for the fun, for twisted logic that makes celeb sex better than normal guy sex and at the end of the day, were wired thousands of dollars to keep their mouth shut except when they were behind closed doors. Mike Wise must have been out of article ideas and decided to get people to read it by putting Tiger's name in the headline and article. It's past time to move on and let him do his thing in trying to do, what many of us have had to do. Eat crow, beg for forgiveness and try to repair our relationship. I've had enough.
Writing a story about the enablers, as an enabler yourself. Nice article. Making excuses for Tiger's infidelity, and Tiger's mindset that he can control everything around him is call egocentrism. This is not an opportunity to find another excuse for a person who makes stupid decisions, and wants to hide what he has really done behind a socially created "disease". Tiger is wrong, he should be called out for cheating on his wife, as should all cheaters, male or female. Cheating is a choice, you don't walk down the street, trip and fall on a woman. Choosing to hang with enabling friends is also again, a choice. Tiger made those choices conciously, along with the the choice to say his vows to his wife. He broke those vows conciously, and there is no excuse that this sporswriter can find to condone it, even to soothe his own guilt from ifidelity.
The person that is tiger woods should be responsible for himself, not be sugar coated, as has been since he walked in front of the cameras, by the people who benefit the most by Tiger Woods. The media.
All hes saying is that he has made the mistake that MORE than half the dating and married population has made.
Hes no better no worse.
Its just like lieing... most people do it sometimes.
Wesley, you're PRECISELY an enabler. There is no societal consequence...5hit, yes we all do wrong, but we don't celebrate that we're all as wrong and "okay" as everyone else. We may lie, but that still makes it unethical and likely leads to more problems...
Really? TIger is no better or worse than legitimate, honored married couples in the world who choose NOT to adulterate? You're f**kin clueless.
If adulterers (male and female, yes, women are unethical too) "are no better no worse", why are we not seeing throngs of editorials and celebratory commentary about the non-adulterers, non-murderers, non-embezzlers in this world? Sure, there are "feel good articles" we occasionally come across, but they are random, marketed pieces, not sharing insight as to why we should be honoring the man who never beat his wife, or the woman who's not a prostitute when her financial luck is down...
This article is appalling. It is wrong in so many ways it is hard to know where to begin. I am Tiger Woods? Who cares, Mike? You are exploiting the situation for your own personal purposes, just like everyone else. I am Not Impressed. Tiger is a user and a loser, just as all the other examples you mentioned. And you are now using him for some holiday word count you have to fill. Do us all a favor and shut up, OK? If this was supposed to be some searing self-revelation, it was pathetic. Have the decency and self respect to keep it to yourself.
This commentary can be reduced to two sentences: 'Tiger Woods has a deep-seated problem with intimacy that must have begun when he was young. He needs to address his problems.' Every other word Wise wrote is superfluous to this core statement and is filler....
Guess what, Mike, we know you're not Tiger Woods and we get that he has serious problems.
Tell us something we don't know.